Is it all about Reactivity?

Since doing Byron Katie’s The Work on a daily basis I am becoming convinced that it’s all about Reactivity. Think about your life and the quality of your relationships. What would it be like to be less reactive in your primary relationship or with your kids? What would it be like to be less reactive in your relationship to work or world events?

This is something that is hard for many people to believe is possible. We take it for granted that reactivity is part of life. Social media has made it more so. Being reactive is considered normal and strong in some cases. “If you are not pissed off, you are not paying attention!” “Of course, I am upset. You would be, too!”

What if reactivity is the source of suffering? What if the quality of your life equals the quality of your reactivity.

Looking back at my life I can see that the situations that I would like a do-over with are all those situations where I over-reacted. I got caught up in a belief that things should be different or that I was wronged in some way.

I didn’t have a way to look at my reactivity, a way to go back into a moment and really look at what I was thinking, feeling and seeing and measure it up against my truth - who I am when I am calm and feeling clear.

Now, I do. The Work provides that for anyone willing to look closely at themselves and how they process the world, how they process their relationships, how they process their reactions.

It’s a gift.